College Students & Recent Graduates

The best days of your life.

At least, they’re supposed to be. You’ve worked hard to get here – to get into the college and program of your choice.

You’re building lifelong friendships, gaining freedom and independence.

YOU decide – when and where and how much you work, whether you can afford to take a break and hang out with your friends, who your friends are, how late you stay out, etc.

You don’t have to ask your parents’ permission for where you go, who you’re going with, and what you’re doing.

You’re getting ready to enter the workforce. You’re supposed to feel excited and confident and be looking forward to all that the future holds.

But nothing could be further from the truth.

Instead of embracing your newfound freedom, you feel homesick and struggle to make decisions on your own.

You’re having difficulty managing your time and staying on top of your work – so your grades are slipping. You’ve lost your motivation to complete the tasks in front of you and are feeling more and more depressed every day.

You’re paralyzed by test anxiety and constantly struggle with feelings of shame and inadequacy.

And if by some miracle, you’re having a halfway decent day, it just takes one Instagram post by a friend who just landed their dream job OR your Ex with their new boyfriend or girlfriend to send you into a downward spiral.

Why you? Or better yet – why NOT you?

It seems like everyone has their stuff together and knows what they want…except for you.

You feel like an imposter – you’re sure that it’s only a matter of time before people figure out you’re a fraud, that you have no idea what you’re doing, and that you don’t belong.

And just as you’re struggling to feel more confident, social media – in all of its forms and glory – reinforces all those fears that everyone is much better at adulting than you.

So. Much. Pressure. The pressure to meet the expectations of your parents and others. It’s hard to know what YOU want for yourself.

So many questions. Why can’t you keep your grades up? Why haven’t you gotten accepted to graduate school or landed your dream job?

And, when you talk to family and friends, you struggle to maintain the façade that everything is going great when, in truth, you feel like a failure.

Time to change your mindset.

First, try to entertain the possibility that you haven’t failed.

Depression and anxiety can distort your thoughts and often tell you that things are worse than they actually are.

Second, even if you have failed at something, YOU are NOT a failure.

If you find that you’re labeling yourself, or anyone or anything else for that matter, try to check yourself.

Labels are absolute, and real-life is rarely, if ever, black and white.

Time to remember – change, real change, is hard. Uncomfortable.

Even the changes you thought you were looking forward to can be challenging.

And, though it may feel like you’re the only one struggling, trust and believe you are NOT alone.

Plenty of others are going through the exact same things. They’re trying to cover it up, pretend everything’s okay and convince the world they’ve got it all under control.

Sound familiar?

Time to trade triviality for truth.

These really can be some of the best days of your life.

You don’t have to figure everything out on your own… it’s okay to ask for help. Reach out today (734) 263-6644.